Want to Forgive but Don’t Know How? Start With This.

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Want to Forgive but Don’t Know How? Start With This.


It’s important and healthy to forgive. People sleep better, live longer, are more at peace, everything can be better for our minds, bodies, and beings when we forgive. (HuffPost)

I want to forgive, I just don’t know how. I try every day to push the pain away. I try every day to ignore my feelings.

The funny thing about forgiveness is that it’s a skill to be learned. Desmond Tutu shares a powerful perspective on forgiveness:

“…when I talk about forgiveness, I mean the belief that you can come out the other side a better person. A better person than one being consumed by anger and hatred. Remaining in that state locks you in a state of victimhood, making you almost dependent on the perpetrator. If you can find it in yourself to forgive, then you are no longer chained to the perpetrator. You can move on, and you can even help the perpetrator to become a better person, too.” (The Forgiveness Project)

Forgiveness is not a feeling; it’s a commitment.

Most of us sit with our feelings and wonder when ‘forgiveness’ will happen?

We think ‘forgiveness’ only happens once the pain goes away.

No…

Forgiveness happens the moment that you commit to yourself that YOU want the blessings of forgiveness.

Yes, you are the one blessed by letting go of the anger and hate, NOT the other person. Forgiveness frees up your emotions and attention to focus on what’s in front of you, not hold on to what’s in the past.

Pain, hate, anger, resentment, vengeance are all feelings that will dominate your life and twist your soul if you let them. You have a choice to forgive, even if it means forgiving yourself. One of the most self-loving things you may ever do in your life is to forgive someone else.

It’s time to get extremely selfish and forgive so you can live a better life.

It really is all about YOU.

Greg W Anderson